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Thursday, March 25, 2010

This is what I was worried about...

A comment on the news story says:

"What difference does it make if the state reconizes it or not. She know she had the baby and I am sure was able to bury him and have a funeral and all. If he lived less than 2 minutes and was classified as a stillborn I dont see what the problem is unless she gets something from the gov't if he is reconized as a baby and he died. I am sorry for their loss but dont see what difference it makes what the state thinks."

First of all, this person must have never had a child pass. If they had, they would know two minutes is a lifetime when it's all you get with your child or loved one.

Second of all, having Wyatt recognized as a baby is for our family. I WILL NOT GAIN ANYTHING from the state or by any other means by having his life and death recognized. It will simply be making a wrong done towards our son and our family, made right. How rude for even assuming I was after money.

I know I don't need to defend myself here. I know you all know where my heart is, but it still hurts to have my motives questioned. Why is it wrong to want my sons life recognized. Yes, it was less than two minutes... but it was a miracle to know we breathed the same air for two minutes I will never get again this side of heaven.



I need to stop looking at comments. It's just going to get me stressed out.

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18 comments:

Christina said...

Yes, please don't look at them...people can be cruel if they have never walked in your shoes. Remember that!!
And remember what you are doing is an amazing thing...hang in there!
xoxo

Mary Ellen said...

The coldness of some people shocks me sometimes. And obviously this person had never experienced this type of deep loss. The amount of time doesnt matter it is the FACT that Wyatt fought to live and make your family whole on this side of heaven even if it was 2 min. Love knows NO time frame!!

Mommies-Miracles said...

How Completely rude and inconsiderate! Your baby was alive and passed away, he was alive before he was ever born, you should still be able to recognize him as being alive and passing away! I don't get some people.

Tina said...

I am sorry you had to hear that person's ugly words. You are right, they don't know what it is like to lose a child. And we all know why this is important to you. Try not to let comments like this get you down. You are doing a wonderful thing for Wyatt and all the other angel babies. xx

Emily said...

Danielle, you were very calm and peaceful in the clip - I'm proud of you, girl! I can only imagine how hard that was, the emotions and the pressure...

As for the comments, sweetie, you know they're coming. Shake it off. People don't understand - we pray that they never will. You have exposed something that many people never have to face, and in doing that you're educating the public. Many of those people will not want to accept the reality you face - they don't understand the emotions of having and losing a baby. Please don't let it affect you. :)

WTG! ((hugs)) so proud of you!

Mommies-Miracles said...

Showing my support, to you and your family :) Head on over and have a look!

http://miracle-momma.blogspot.com/2010/03/baby-is-baby-no-matter-how-long-theyre.html

The Blue Sparrow said...

Oh Danielle, I am so sorry. These ppl dont get it and they never will. Having your childs life recognized in anyway is such a huge deal when that is all your ever going to get with that child. Your heart IS in the right place and most ppl will see that. *HUGS*

Franchesca Cox said...

oh Danielle, I didn't even think people could be so stupid. Wow someone needs to slap that person for being such an idiot... slapping her would be too nice. Wow that just makes me so MAD for you! Of course you're not after something you just want Wyatt to be recognized - his LIFE . It's not too much to ask for. I'm so sorry.

Holly said...

I'm sorry you got that comment! No, they def have never lost a child. Anybody who has knows how much it means.

Brittany said...

I can't believe someone would have the audacity to write that! How awful! Hang in there, Danielle! You are doing the right thing!

Trennia said...

some people are just freaking sick in the head!!!! what the hell do they think we want our babies to die so we can get something from the gov'ment? they are sick!!!! pisses me off I'm sorry there are people like that.

crystal theresa said...

((hugs)) i'm sorry for that insensitive comment and rude assumptions.

as a parent i want the whole world to recognize my babies - because i lost Calvin at 18 weeks and Rainbow at 7 weeks, people just brush these losses off and say try for another. they are still my babies and they matter, and i need people to recognize and respect that.

your son lived. your son was born ALIVE and deserves that recognition. you and your family deserve to have his life acknowledged.

that just gets me so riled up. and i'm so sorry for the hurt that that person caused you. :(. when it comes to our babies, i definitely understand the protective instinct and need to defend yourself against such frustrating comments.

croleyc69 said...

That is a shame that someone could be that rude. Don't worry what people say. My husband I were talking once again and you know how much you can do in 2 minutes. We are praying so much.
Caroline

Nati @ I will praise Him said...

How rude! I can't believe how cold and mean some people are!

lindsey said...

What you are doing is a special and wonderful thing. It's letting each and everyone of your children know that their life is important. I hope that you win you battle for your family and for the next grieving family. I could not even imagine what your family has gone through but I pray that I have half the strength that you do in the face of tragedy.
"Don't tell God how big your storm is, tell your storm how big your God is" and I think you have shown us all how Big our God is!

Just Breathe said...

Yes, you need to stop reading the comments. Some people do not think before they speak or take the time to put themselves in your shoes. Taking in air for 2 minutes mean Wyatt was alive! He was not still!
His life must be counted and it does matter.

With Out My Punkin said...

((((HUGS)))) ahhh some people! You are doing a wonderful thing don't let them tear you down!

Elizabeth said...

He LIVED and he deserves a birth certificate. My prayers are with you as you continue trying to give your son what he deserves. *hugs*